When your son or daughter is deployed you may feel a complicated mix of feelings. These feelings can include: grief, loss and mourning. The feelings are no quite like grief that you feel when someone we love has passed away, but it is an intense mourning or angst. This can sometimes leave a parent feeling perplexed. As parents, we don’t expect to grieve this way when our son or daughter goes to war. We were never given a handbook with this child and we were never given a mental briefing by the military.
In the past few years the type of grief that military families face when they have a loved one deployed to a war zone have been studied and deemed “anticipatory grief”. Know that you are not alone in your feelings and that there are some ways to manage these feelings so that you can cope.
Military life includes a sad reality — not everyone will make it home safely. Even though precautions are taken to insure the safety of our troops, there aren’t any guarantees. Those of us in Military Families are all too aware that, as a part of the military community, we may be faced with death of someone we love at any time.
When death strikes close to us it takes a toll on all of us. That is why it is so important to discovering ways to deal and cope with death. Finding ways to process your feelings is vital to your mental health. See More