A deployment may top the list of challenges a military spouse must face. The distance, the safety risk, the sporadic, often delayed communication, and everything else that comes with an assignment isn’t easily understood by most people.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t stop people from claiming they understand as they try to counsel you. When Military Spouse Central, hosted by Veterans United, inquired on facebook about the most hurtful things military spouses have heard, an overwhelming number of responses mentioned things said about deployments.
You knew what you were signing up for. Get over it. My husband goes away on business trips all of the time. You must think about him dying all of the time.
Sound familiar? These comments can be hurtful and frustrating, but there are ways to maintain your mood as you approach the challenges of distance. See More
The old saying “more money, more problems” tends to hold truth, even in holy matrimony. Combining finances after marriage can get tricky. Perhaps it’s the reason you’ll find money to be the second-most likely reason for divorce.
Military couples may find it even tougher to stick it out seeing as deployments, trainings and permanent changes of station are constantly changing circumstances. But with some thoughtful planning and communication married couples can merge money matters without hassle and keep the financial honeymoon going.
When you are planning to get married make sure you and your spouse discuss these topics: See More
During deployment service members will tell you there is nothing better than receiving stuff from home!
I tend to send tons of letters and get the first few care packages off without a hitch… then I am at a loss of what else to send. While my spouse assured me repeated packages with the same favorite items are still loved and appreciated, I still wanted some new ideas.
We asked our community of military spouses and they came up with some tips and ideas for care packages that you can look forward to making, and your spouse can look forward to receiving.
They say distance may make the heart grow fonder, but they fail to mention that distance can let the romance squander just as well. Being romantic can be extremely difficult across thousands of miles, especially for a deployed spouse stuck in the middle of a war.
The communication may be minimal and sporadic and the time spent waiting in between can lead to stress that ruins what time you do get to talk. It may be difficult, but it isn’t impossible.
Military life can be a chaotic, lonely adventure at times. That means having a supportive community can be crucial for military spouses. They’ll need to rely on friends and family more than ever, but what happens when the military life moves you miles apart from your main sources of comfort? Trying to tough it out alone is nearly impossible, but knowing where to meet new friends can be tough.
Here are some good places to consider when looking for companionship: