Mamameghan:  The sad thing is, that MANY Army “wives”, or other service member spouses tend to gossip and want to be the first person with the hot news.  There is something called a “blackout”, when someone is Killed in Action, or Wounded in Action (My husband is a wounded in action soldier, and we have dealt with many KIA’s in his company last deployment including those of close friends).  When there is a WIA, the notification of a phone call goes out to the family members….once everyone is notified, the blackout is taken off.  In the case of a KIA, they notify in person, everyone who is listed.  This may actually mean several people…such as a spouse, child, parents, etc.  It often is more then one KIA at on etime also. 

In this case, the person who did this, was probably on the phone or on the internet chatting when it happened….and someone notified her husband.  The blackout of all communcation happened right after that probably.  SOmetimes there is a delay.  Sadly, this spouse should have known better.  Unfortunately, I have been both an Army spouse and in the military myself for over 10 years altogether…there are all sorts of women/men and ages and maturity levels.  For someone to do this to another spouse is despicable!