While more than half of 1.4 million current active duty service members are married, researchers at Regis University found, these military spouses are rarely considered when documenting the costs of wartime service.
According to the research, “when the average, non-military American thinks about the United States’ conflicts in Iraq and Afghanistan, he or she generally associates the stressors and casualties of the wars with the active-duty services members.”
Contrary to these findings, the spouses typically endure comparable amounts of stress, but their health care needs are often obscured by a primary concern for the soldier. Fortunately, reliance on self-care and spousal support can offer a viable means to cope.
Saying “I love you” isn’t very difficult, but it can prove to be an issue when your spouse is deployed and communication isn’t easy. If you can’t talk on the phone every day, you might find it hard to communicate your love on a regular basis.
So the next best thing is to get creative with the methods through which you say “I love you.” Here are several creative things you can do from the home front that serve that purpose.
My husband often complains when people stop and thank him when he is in uniform. He says, “I’m just doing my job, it makes me uncomfortable for people to thank me for doing my job.” I understand that to a degree.
He feels like there are so many servicemembers who have died, suffered and sacrificed so much that his contribution is relatively small. I try to remind him that people are thanking him because he is willing to do all of those things for his country and that’s enough.
But what about the people who call you out for more malicious reasons?