While more than half of 1.4 million current active duty service members are married, researchers at Regis University found, these military spouses are rarely considered when documenting the costs of wartime service.
According to the research, “when the average, non-military American thinks about the United States’ conflicts in Iraq and Afghanistan, he or she generally associates the stressors and casualties of the wars with the active-duty services members.”
Contrary to these findings, the spouses typically endure comparable amounts of stress, but their health care needs are often obscured by a primary concern for the soldier. Fortunately, reliance on self-care and spousal support can offer a viable means to cope.
The Internet has become an incredibly important tool for the military community to document and share their experiences. Personal blogs and social media have given everyone an opportunity to share their story. National Guard wife Ali Gibbs uses her blog, Better Together, as a springboard for her thoughts and feelings.
And that insight can amount to a lot of unique feelings that come with being married to the military. How do milspouses cope with love, loss and leaving?
Moving houses can be intimidating in the first place, but having to move by yourself can be downright frightening. If you’re a military spouse, that might be the reality at some point in your life when your spouse is deployed.
“I am an active duty military spouse with two children and six ‘on my own’ moves under my belt,” said Roxanne Reed, Executive Director of the Military Spouse Foundation and Marine Corps spouse. “I’ll be honest — moving stressed me out to no end in the beginning, but now I see it as a time to clean out, reorganize and start fresh.”
I get asked so often for a list of recommended books for Military Spouses that I thought I would create a Military Spouse Reading List, just for our readers! Every month I will feature a few books on our Reading list and review them for you. Hopefully you will wind up with a whole new list of books to read, from novels to practical resources.
The first book on my Military Spouse Reading List is the first book I read as a military spouse, and it still has remained my absolute favorite many books later. If you are a newer military spouse and you read just one book for military spouses, you must read Going Overboard: The Misadventures of a Military Wife by Sarah Smiley, the wife of a Navy servicemember. See More
As a member of the United States Armed Forces I often hear: “Thank you for your service.” But how often do we thank a military spouse?
Who thanks those who work behind the scenes to make the home life of military personnel less of a concern so military members can focus on the task at hand? Soldiers, sailors, Marines, airmen, Coast Guards — they are all people with personal lives and personal affairs. When we are overseas we have to leave everything behind. I can’t tell you how important it is that things at home are “squared away.” Soldiers worried about their children, their home, their bills or their parents will not be able to focus on the mission. This isn’t a job you can do half-heartedly or amid distraction. See More