The No. 1 requested item in a care package?
It sounds simple but a letter is priceless to service members during a deployment or even training. I have never talked to a service member or veteran who didn’t think fondly of the letters they received. There is just something about a snail-mail, handwritten love letter. It is a physical reminder that you took time to sit down and write to your spouse. It is something tangible: your spouse can hold it, tuck it away in a pocket and revisit your words at any time.
I have written hundreds, maybe even thousands of letters. Sometimes I feel like I can write 50 pages and pour my heart out and other times I pull a blank. So here is some advice for when you are feeling less inspired and trying to craft that perfect love letter.
Write what you really feel and think about. Your spouse loves and misses you, they want to feel connected to you and nothing else will strengthen your marriage more than being yourself. As Marietta Hardwick said, “Just be you, it is what he is in love with in the first place.”
You should always be genuine and yourself but there are lots of times you may say “that is exactly how I feel.” It’s OK to send song lyrics, quotes and even comics that remind you of your spouse.
Military spouse Katelyn Louer says, “I always tried to make the letters colorful and cheerful,” and Nydia Vázquez-López suggests to “add pictures, poems, snippets from your daily life…it doesn’t always have to be a letter.”
Other spouses utilize the old trick of spraying their letters with perfume. Carolyn Morrow says, “It made him feel like he was next to me again.”
One idea comes from Tracy Lynn Jones Ryver: “Find a theme and start a story.” Write back and forth, each of you taking turns adding parts to the story.
Kathiey Witten and her spouse have a shared journal in which they have chronicled their life together, even continuing the tradition when her husband is home. She says, ” It’s a journal of our lives together. Doesn’t matter how much you write….or what you write…just write….!”